Get unstuck!

98% of people feel stuck not because of the actual situation but because of overthinking.

They think soo much that they feel clueless on what to do and end up not being able to do anything. Or they do something out of restlessness, messing things up really bad and regretting later.

I have experienced both situations.

There was a time when I spent almost a year researching (actually overthinking) for a perfect career without taking any action. Ended up feeling stagnant and stuck.

On the other hand, overthinking made me make some decisions which I regretted for some time. I faced rejection a couple of years ago. Started overthinking for ways to at least retain the friendship. Drowned in the flood of emotions, I became lonely, restless and needy which almost ruined the friendship completely.

What saved me in both situations was the gap of silence. It’s the time when you either feel like doing nothing or talking to no one.

That’s the opportunity to do some inner work. And thankfully I didn’t miss it.

I became peaceful and calm. I started feeling in control of myself without actually trying to control anything.

Now when I decide to do something, it’s usually out of love instead of desperation.

What helped me with the change?

1. Brain-dumping your thoughts

When there are hundreds of conflicting thoughts running across the mind, it becomes very difficult to face your emotions. That’s why the first step is to brain-dump your mind on a piece of paper.

Now you won’t be writing down hundreds of thoughts. You will naturally write what’s really bothering you. Because out of 100s of thoughts, there might be only a couple of thoughts which are directly related to your current situation.

This creates some space in your mind and makes you feel lighter.

2. Filtering out your assumptions

Harsh truth: Most of your thoughts which are either self-deprecating or blaming others for what you’re feeling are usually just plain assumptions. But you don’t realise this when you’re feeling low or frustrated. That’s why it’s important to give some space and question your thoughts.

Ask yourself, am I sure that what I’m thinking is a reality? or is it just my assumption? Don’t answer immediately. Sit with your question for a while. Because we really like to defend our ego. But when you give it some time, you create a distance between you and your ego. That’s when you filter out the baseless arguments you have with yourself about the situation.

This gives you some clarity and makes you feel calmer.

3. Act based on reality

After filtering out the assumptions, what’s left is the reality of the situation. Now, in most cases, the reality is sweeter than your assumptions. So you’re able to move on easily.

But the reality might also be harsh and you might not have the courage to face it at present. And that’s totally okay. Take your time and be confident that at least you won’t make any wrong decisions based on your assumptions.

This helps you avoid regrets and makes you feel peaceful.

It’s okay to feel stuck sometimes.

But remember that it’s in your hands to remove the blockage of thoughts and emotions hindering your flow in life.

Become free from overwhelm. Become effortless.

Until next week,

— Ragav

PS: I’m offering free 1-1 guidance on overcoming overthinking for 5 people on a first come first serve basis. Please DM me if you’re interested or if you know anyone who will benefit from it. Thanks :)